(pun in title intended)
There is a question posted about intimate relationship between members of different species: What would be the most comfortable position for mermaids and humans to engage in sexual relationships?
It was closed and also had comments about appropriateness:
I'm not sure if Worldbuilding should take the place of a Kamasutra SE
I’m voting to close this question because questions about sex positions, even fantastic ones, seems to be above the nominal PG13 rating of a stack exchange site
I’m voting to close this question because - while clearly posted in good faith - I worry this skirts too close to the AUP: stackoverflow.com/legal/acceptable-use-policy
This is a bit disturbing to me.Looking at the sex tag we have had well received questions that ask broadly the same thing:
How would interspecies lovers with alien body plans safely engage in physical intimacy? score of +14/-3; no close votes.
How would dragons mate, according to science? score +13/-1; no close votes; was a Hot Network Question
This is here only to show that some questions that are on the same general topic are accepted. This one wasn't. I can guess at the reason - the close question was worded slightly more explicitly than the others. I can see how that can make a difference but also it doesn't make sense that it does.
However, while looking at the tag, I started to see a slightly deeper problem:
Nearly a third of the questions are closed. Some of them are closed for reasons that would not have changed if the tag wasn't there. For example open ended questions which are acceptably worded but just cannot be answered correctly. However, there are questions that thread a line and that seems to have contributed to their closure.
We have discussed some questions that lead to questionable content before:
Why do we [torture] ourselves with this tag?
A proposal to establish policy regarding the torture and execution tags
We cannot host gruesome depictions of violence, the [torture] tag has it and needs cleaning up
Should the [tag:execution] tag be removed?
It doesn't seem like sex has had too objectionable a content so far but I fear sooner or later it might. Maybe it's time to discuss what is acceptable for that tag and how to keep content in check so we can agree on what shouldn't get closed and how to keep questions from being closed that otherwise seem to have an acceptable core concept in them. I'm picturing the intimate relation questions here but I suspect there would be other cases where we have accepted a post in the past but rejected a newer one mostly based on wording rather than what the query is about.
To sum it up: should we think long and hard about what we consent in sex?